I almost forgot my sister's birthday and, as she is one of the few family members who bother to even send me a card at Christmas, that isn't good. Yes she was born on the 9th of September - 9/11.
It's 9/11 time again and if it wasn't for all the posts on Facebook I wouldn't have realised. It isn't that I have forgotten the event, I can vividly recall every moment of it and where I was and who with, it's just that I don't really have a need to remember dates these days.
Of course it was terrible, just as terrible as so many things that have occurred throughout history. But we can't remember them all otherwise we would spend all of our lives feeling sad and God knows where that would take us. Not a good place I'm sure.
Some things get remembered more than others; the first world war, princess Diana's death, the holocaust, Hiroshma. Other things, equally as important and terrible hardly register with most of us; the flu epidemic of 1918, the Irish potato famine, the Birmingham pub bombings.
'Lest we forget'? Why should we not forget? Or at least not have to remember on demand. Would it be so wrong to let these things fade from our minds? Would it be wrong to only remember them when we wanted to? Do we need all these silences so long after the events? Does it do anybody any good to post pictures of the place where the twin towers once stood to remind us of that day?
If you want to remember then please do. But don't expect everyone to remember with you or in the same way as you do. What we remember and how is each for each of us to decide and I want to remember my sister's birthday today, not 9/11