Tuesday 23 December 2014

Advent Calender 23 - Lost Christmas cards...

Ah, the humble Christmas card. They say almost nothing when you receive them, but speak volumes when they don’t arrive. Not getting a Christmas card from somebody who you have known for a long time can mean any number of things. They could have died, fallen on hard times, or maybe even fallen out with you.

I think my mother used to measure her popularity by the number of Christmas cards she received, may even have pitied others who didn’t receive as many as she did. I don’t get cards from her any more. I don’t send her any either. What would be the point given the man she lives with and the fact that I have been ordered to have no contact with either of them?

A lot of my family have stopped sending me cards since the man I mentioned pushed it just a little too far and showed his true colours again. He’s not a man to disagree with you see. Funny the way people side, even when they must know the truth about his behaviour. It isn’t exactly a one off and everyone must have seen it at some time or another. Why use not sending a Christmas card as a weapon though?

Oh well, we still have plenty of cards to hang along our stairs; cards from people and friends who know us, even some from people who like me for who I am.

And that will do for me.

Merry Christmas.
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20 comments:

  1. MAWH23 December 2014 at 20:15

    Ah...something else that I haven't got around to this year...

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  2. akh24 December 2014 at 08:33

    Cloe Fyne on FB
    Dislike

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    1. akh24 December 2014 at 08:33

      Andrew Height
      I don't much care any more to be honest Cloe.

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  3. akh24 December 2014 at 08:34

    Sarah Rawden on FB
    It is sad, but how wonderful to get cards from people who truely know you and like you xXx

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    1. akh24 December 2014 at 08:34

      Andrew Height
      I get cards and presents from my customers who appreciate me more than that lot Sarah. Still not right though. X

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    2. akh24 December 2014 at 08:35

      Sarah Rawden
      No...it isn't right Andrew, but I am so thankful for the people who really know me, who see the real me...it is so very wrong....but do not let it get you down xXx

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  4. akh24 December 2014 at 08:35

    Sarah Farmer on FB
    Andrew you only want cards from people who genuinely like you. I don't see the point of receiving cards from people who have been horrid. ...but nevertheless its sad and I know how that feels

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    1. akh24 December 2014 at 08:36

      Andrew Height
      It doesn't much Sarah. It is far better than the alternative of having to pretend be a happy family when we clearly never were. I'll stick with what I have xx

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  5. akh24 December 2014 at 08:36

    Cloe Fyne on FB
    The boys got wonderful gifts from our neighbour! Only a fivers worth but right up their street!! X

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    1. akh24 December 2014 at 08:37

      Andrew Height
      Small things mean a lot Cloe. X

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    2. akh24 December 2014 at 08:37

      Cloe Fyne
      That they do xx

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    3. akh24 December 2014 at 08:38

      Cloe Fyne
      Like letters and little bits and bobs Andrew Height xx

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  6. akh24 December 2014 at 08:38

    Sarah Rawden on FB
    Love the people who truely love you xXx

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    1. akh24 December 2014 at 08:39

      Andrew Height Good advice Sarah Rawden

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    2. akh24 December 2014 at 08:39

      Sarah Rawden
      It's hard, but love the ones whio love you back have a wonderful Christmas Andrew and a very Happy and Healthy new Year xXx

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    3. akh24 December 2014 at 08:40

      Andrew Height
      Happy I can do Sarah x

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  7. akh24 December 2014 at 08:39

    Lucy Whitehead on FB
    Mine best be up!

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    1. akh24 December 2014 at 08:40

      Andrew Height
      Pride of place Lucy. I gave you a Santa peg.

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  8. akh24 December 2014 at 08:41

    Tim Preston on FB
    Andy I'm not asking you to change your mind but whatever god you believe in would tell you not to make an enemy of anyone. I have feelings of deep hatred for a few people (I did feel like this about my mum). I've found through my beliefs that you should try to love evertbody - of course this is impossible but I have tried to do this with my mum - I didn't like her because she used to always criticise me and yet I think that in my subconscious, she was the from whom I was seeking approval. In Buddhism they ask you to consider the person as a pulsing sack of flesh and bone full of fear, just like any of us. We all have our fears and dillusions and we should try to accept that however racist and obnoxious they are. Much of it comes though fear. I have found that if you can detatch yourself from the intensity of the disagreement, you can see the pain of the other person and you can feel compassion where you never thought it possible. Admittedly though with some people this is not possible at this present time. I think that it's something to keep in mind :-S

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